More on Aligning with the Right Partners

I was reading a post from one of my all time favorite thought leaders, Rhonda Britten of www.Fearlessliving.org and this portion stood out for me with regard to how we see and relate to others.  Seeing people as innocent and letting go of blame and judgment can help us speed up the process of aligning ourselves with Powerful Partners, thus immediately creating more joy and happiness in our lives!

<portion of Rhonda’s blog – for full article, click here>

“Now, I don’t mean the kind of innocence were responsibility is forgotten. Oh, no. Absolutely not. We must take responsibility for our actions, our thoughts and our intentions. As should others.

I am talking about the innocence of knowing we would choose higher, and so would others, if we had the skills, the tools and the awareness to do so. People are mean to feel a false sense of power. People get defensive to protect themselves. People shut-down so they don’t have to feel.

When we are willing to see the innocence in those actions, i.e. the individual before you is acting that way because they are afraid, we can give that person a bit of compassion, a tad of understanding while at the same time, have the skill and courage to put our boundaries in place and say ‘no’ to behaviors that aren’t okay. And, at the same time, see their innocence.

There is that fine line: standing up for ourselves and seeing the innocence. Both of those things can exist at the same time but most folks, out of confusion and misunderstanding, do one or the other.

They either put a boundary in place and are unforgiving and blame, blame, blame. Or they have compassion for the other but forget to take care of themselves and say ‘no’ when appropriate.

Ask yourself: who are you keeping out of your life because you are afraid to see their innocence and who are you keeping in your life because you are afraid to stand up for yourself? ”

Wow!  These are powerful questions!  Where are you today with this?

The Happiness Chick

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